So what's one of the biggest surprises you can have in your life?
That's right.... a surprise pregnancy.
There are so many different situations that this can happen in... I'm very lucky that mine is in a very good position. I have a loving husband (and three other children), a home, and I'm in a stable place. There are much worse positions to be in. That being said.... it was a HUGE surprise.
Whenever I heard about "surprise" pregnancies.... I thought "ya right! How much of a surprise can it be?! You knew what you were doing and how babies are made!" I still think that's true... however... now I can see it in a different light too.
So how can this possibly be a surprise for us? SIMPLE. Way back when trying for our first (a three year adventure), I found out I had PCOS - Polycystic Ovary Syndrome. Dr's told me it would be very difficult if not impossible for me to pregnant by myself. I was devastated. I took some time to come to terms with it, and I moved forward with what options I had. 3 years, 1 miscarriage, and 1 ectopic later, we had our daughter.
Trying for our second and third went much faster since I had found my "magic combo" of having lost weight, and taking metformin.
While pregnant with our third, I knew that this would be it for us. Our magic number 3 and our family was complete. I was wrong.... but that's what I thought at the time.
So between being careful, and knowing that it was very highly unlikely for me to get preggo... it really never occurred to me that it would happen. We had things set in motion for it to be a permanent decision. We were certain that we were happy being a family of 5.
You can imagine my shock when I found out we were expecting #4!!! NATURALLY!!! I didn't know what to think. I was in complete shock. Essentially a lot of coincidences had to happen at the same time... it's truly nothing short of a miracle for this to happen. It's taken me some time to get in the right frame of mind.... it's a whole new journey this time. In many more ways than one. Things are so different when you're planning and trying for child... and a surprise really threw me for a loop!
So surprises can happen.... even to someone who never thought it possible!
I have had several surprises, lol! The first I was 20 and just plain stupid. The next time I was on the pill but God had a bigger plan ;-) Then 2 yrs ago, just 6 months after my 4th baby was born we found out about an impending 5th! I had not even started my cycles so didn't think I was ovulating. Can you be old and stupid???? They've all been worth it though. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteThanks! I've heard that surprises are wonderful! I'm very thankful that I get to experience a surprise... especially after dealing with infertility. It's a blessing.
DeleteI think big families are wonderful... thanks for sharing your story!
Your story is similar to my own, #3 was a complete surprise for us! We tried for two years before we finally conceived #1, didn't think a surprise was possible! But #2 was a newborn and I hadn't even starting my menstrual cycle back up yet when apparently we conceived another! ack!
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing your story! :)
DeleteIt's amazing how things work sometimes! I've heard that surprises are wonderful though... and I'm anxious to meet our surprise soon.
I don't know about you... but in those years of "trying" I remember wishing for a surprise. Well, be careful what you wish for... especially if you don't give a timeline!